As we wrapped up our lunch, I told Isis about an episode of "Family Guy" that I had seen last night. (Now bare with me... you might be thinking "What the heck, what is she doing combining Scripture with that crazy cartoon in a single blog?" Good question. All I can say is that I have a wacky brain. C'est la vie, folks.) In one scene, Stewie, the youngest Griffin, was lamenting his loss of a girl he had a crush on. He asked Brian, the dog, how he should get her back. Brian took him outside and told him the best way to learn would be to watch their neighbor, Quagmire and how he handles women. Just at that moment, Quagmire appears outside following behind his date who ran angry out of his home, upset by, how should I phrase it, a very inappropriate request he made. She refuses to come back in, and stands on his front lawn yelling at him. Quagmire responds by calling her, among other things, "fat" and "stupid." She then asks, "I am?", and then walks back inside his home, agreeing to his assessment of her and deciding to fulfill his request. Stewie, still watching with Brian, has learned the lesson. All he had to do was treat the girl he wanted pitifully, and he'd be able to get what he wanted.
Reflecting on that scene again, it struck me how so many women fall in that trap. They allow guys to use their own insecurities against them- that they are fat, ugly, stupid, unlovable, cheap or slutty. They feel their biggest fear is being confirmed, and continue to remain in misery, believing deep down that no one else will want them. This is definitely not love, just control. I pointed out to Isis the characters in that scene were also revealing. There was a baby, a dog, and most tellingly, a guy named "Quagmire"- which means "an area of miry or boggy ground whose surface yields under the tread; a bog, " according to Dictionary.com, with synonyms like, "predicament" and "dilemma." Is the guy you find yourself going in circles with an immature baby, a low down dog, or a life sucking bog? Because if you're finding yourself in a never ending drama, you might be dating a guy with those characteristics.
So to my lovely Isis, and anyone else who is going through your own "dilemma", I leave you with I Corinthians 10:13: "The temptations in your life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will not allow the temptation to be more than you can stand. When you are tempted, he will show you a way out so that you can endure." And when God provides that way to stop the cycle, do your part, living out your faith through action.