Saturday, October 31, 2009

No Tricks, Just Treats


It's Halloween, and I figured I'd provide my lovely readers a grab bag of treats, i.e. links to different stories and opinions regarding this holiday. And no costume required to enjoy!



Whatever you choose to do (or not do), just remember to be safe and have fun! And there's no way I could close this blog without this:


Have a great day!

I Am Me- By Linda Raoul


Such wonderfully talented people I know! This post is written by the beautiful Ms. Linda Raoul, who is not only on fire for God, but also composes wonderful poetry. Enjoy this guest post, and if you want to submit something, just email me at alishadefreitas@gmail.com. ~Alisha



So this month is Domestic Violence Awareness Month and today I had the pleasure of helping a woman who is currently in an abusive relationship who is seeking to find a way out. I must tell you, her story was very touching and powerful. What came to mind after speaking to her is how at this point she is some what powerless. Her identity is still in the hand of her abuser, so that makes her like a baby. She is now in need of nurturing from genuine people who will help her to regain her self-confidence and self-worth. Someone to listen to her and tell her she is beauitful and she will overcome!

So after a long morning session with her, I started to think about myself. NO!!! I can't identify with her but what came to mind is how people's words can kill your spirit, never allowing you to be the person you were created to be. Another thing that came to mind is when people like myself, speak proudly of where we've been, who we are and how much we love ourselves, we are told that we are conceited. Listen up, too often we let people define who we are. At a very young age, I have been called many things such as LOUD, skinny, fat, emotional, you take things personal,dramatic, and the list goes on....LOL now I can laugh at these statements because I know who I really am. The pictures that have been created by other people can NO longer DEFINE ME nor will their WORDS keep me bound!!!



So today I wrote a poem (I have written four within the pass month) celebrating my identity and the woman I am becoming in Christ! I stand proud in telling you who I really am....




I am me

You may see a huge smile place on my pretty caramel face
Don’t be fooled...
Do you really know me?
Conversations with me
A hug
A kiss on the cheek
But you have yet to discover who I be
Nor are you close to finding the treasure that is within me

My swagger gives voice to my long awaited confidence
Those four inch heels validate the woman I have become
Every color that I wear paints an image of the little girl who cries no more
My short cut
My colored lips
My fitted jeans
Letting you know that I am content with the way I am packaged


To some I unlock my emotions
I speak the language of my heart
Pieces of my heart
My hurt
My pain
My struggles
My joy
My accomplishments
The girl I use to be
The lady I am
The woman I am becoming
Yes, it’s all about me, I am ME

I am Linda Raoul, Ms.Diva, Ms. Pretty
I am your Lin-Lin, your dada, your dadou
I am a child of God, the lover of my God, his Beloved
A sister, a daughter, a god-mother, a cousin
I am your friend
An OVERCOMER
A servant
A leader
A social worker
I want more
I have big dreams
I will be someone's wife
I will be a mother
I will be a minister of his word
NEVER settling for less
I was made to have to have his best
My roles, my accomplishments doesn’t define me
Just some accessories to my being
I must say that I wear them well
I define them

I am Me


I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.—Ps 139:14

Support Me!



Ok, it's not me, so much as the group I volunteer for, Literacy Volunteers of New Jersey (part of the nationwide Literacy Volunteers of America). My chapter, LV-Union is "a non-profit organization that improves the lives of adults in our county by teaching them to read, write and speak English so they can participate more fully in family, workplace and community life. LV-UC provides quality instruction to adult learners by training, mobilizing and supporting volunteers as certified tutors in basic literacy, life skills and English as a Second Language."

I've been working as an ESL tutor off and on for the past 5 years, and it's been a blessing to help others build their reading and writing skills. So now dear FAR readers, I'm asking you to help make a difference by donating a few bucks (really, skip a grande caramel macchiato from Starbucks and you'll have just about $5) to this great cause.

To donate, just click here. Thanks!

My thermometer is not hot, and neither is my fundraising skills, so I've taken to the blog to shill for donations.

Tuesday, October 27, 2009

...In Sickness...

K and I did not have a wedding cake last year, so for our one year anniversary I brought these little cake toppers and my sis got us a little cake.


It's funny how when I took my vows a year ago, how little I paid attention to the "... to have and to hold, in sickness and health" line. Specifically, the sickness part. I think I was more focused on saying "I do" at the right time while simultaneously preventing myself from breaking into tears. No matter, cause this year, my Love and I have been living out our vows to care for each other through a lot of ailments.

I mentioned in an earlier blog some of my health issues. Since then, I've learned that I do not have hyperthyroidism. Unfortunately, I have developed a neuropathy, and the doctors are stumped as to why (You can go ahead and click on that link to get more info about neuropathies... as soon as I got home from the doctor's, I googled it.). I'm going to write a separate blog about this later, but prayers are appreciated and for those who have been praying already, thank you so much. The neuro-muscular specialist I saw yesterday told me it is not ALS or MS, thank God.

But on a much lighter note, in the midst of all the nerve stuff, I had a cyst on my face (which started as a blackhead as a teen) that became infected. That's right, on my face. You'd think with the heavier, scarier medical problems going on, I'd be too distracted to whine about an ugly bump. But then you'd have thought wrong. Alisha, thy name is vanity.


The infected cyst last week. Small, purplish bump that I easily hid with my hair.


Ahhhhhh! October 23rd... the cyst can no longer be hid. Tragically, our one year anniversary was the next day and I looked like this!


On the 26th, I headed to the plastic surgeon's office (since the dermatologist refused to touch it). He made a small incision and drained it. Too bad the local anesthetic he injected into my face did not kick in until AFTER the procedure was over. My jaw still feels tore up, and the ordeal is not over. I have to go back to this doctor next week to have the cyst actually removed. More cutting, more Johnson & Johnson's plastered to my face.



This is true love folks. This morning, I had to go to the lab for blood work relating to the neuropathy (and if you're wondering how I have time for all this, I have this week off from work... we were originally going to take off for a vacay for our one year anniversary). Although I was going to a place full of medical personnel, I was horrified of the the big old bandage I had to keep on my face. K grabbed one, and slapped it on his face. Even though it covered a third of his face, K put Nelly to shame with his band aid game. He did it to show solidarity. He also showed love. And how right I was to say "I do."

Monday, October 26, 2009

Not So Prophetic...


Lol, EPIC church sign FAIL!

My Misconception of Love (an apology to my first love) by Candace Harney


Enjoy this guest post by the lovely Ms. Candace Harney:


Soooo, in my short life I have had misconceptions of love (we ALL have) but I'm learning more and more about what it truly is. However, I’ll be focusing on one misconception in particular. I will begin with the 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 (NIV):

"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails."


I used to ask my first love WHY did he love me. He could never really answer the question and then I would get upset. I felt that if he loved me he should be able to tell me why. He would initially tell me that he didn’t know why but I wouldn’t be pleased with that response. So after prodding him some more he would give me random reasons for why he loved me and then I would be appeased. I....WAS..... WRONG!

True love, the love that God give us (which is Himself. When he loves us He give us Himself. How Awesome!), is UNCONDITIONAL. What does unconditional mean? Unconditional means “not limited by conditions.” This tells us that if you have to find a reason to be loved or have a condition to love, then you are not living in or experiencing TRUE LOVE. GOD’S LOVE IS UNCONDITIONAL LOVE; AGAPE LOVE which is the love that God requires us to love Him and one another in.

True love loves without any reason or condition. Example, if my boyfriend were to tell me “ I love you because you’re kind, funny and giving.” then that tells me that anytime I fail to be these thing, then I can not be loved by him. In addition, if his love towards me stops because I am the opposite of these things then the “love” that he showed me was conditional and thus, not TRUE LOVE in the first place. Go back to the top and look at the attributes of LOVE in 1 Corinthians 13 carefully. Still don’t believe me? Then answer these questions:

1. Why does God love you?

2. Did you do anything to earn God’s love?

3. Can you do anything to stop God from loving you?

These questions I have found very difficult to answer and in search for answers, they have helped me to understand God’s love a little better. Let’s see what the scriptures says in regards to these questions:


“Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another.” 1 John 4:8-11 (NIV)

“Very rarely will anyone die for a righteous man, though for a good man someone might possibly dare to die. But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” - Romans 5:7-9 (NIV)

“For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” - Romans 8:38-39 (NIV)


From these scriptures I am left to conclude that there is NO conditions attached to God’s love for us. We can not earn His love and we can not do anything to lose His love. He just simply loves us!
I believe that this is hard for us to comprehend because humanistic love tends to be conditional the majority of the time. One day we love, then the next day we don’t. However, those who have been able to tap into unconditional love where their love towards someone holds the attributes in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 has had a taste of what God’s love is like towards us…and only a taste because God loves us even more than this!

One of my spiritual mentors started giving me examples of real love. One that stood out in particular was this: He said "Candace, true love is when a man catches his wife in adultery and instead of telling others how she has wronged him or divorcing her, he forgives her, covers her offense and desires to work it out. Candace, that's love." Then he said " If that same man, finds his wife cheating again and choses to forgive her again and work it out, Candace, that's love." The old Candace, would have thought "No! That ain't love. That's just stupid!" However, when I measure up what my mentor was telling me, to 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 and measure it up to how God loves and deals with us, THAT IS EXACTLY WHAT LOVE WOULD DO. In NO way am I saying for someone to subject themselves to abuse from a spouse but the heart that desires to forgive over and over again, to hold no wrongs against someone and to hide their sin, that heart is expressing UNCONDITIONAL LOVE.

So, I guess, this is my official apology to my ex-boyfriend. I have learned through Him that love can not be found in reasoning or in words alone but love is felt and known when it is experienced… just like God.

Now the next task in unconditional, agape love is to LOVE your enemies! WHOOPTIE DOO! lol
Jesus said:

"You have heard that it was said, 'Love your neighbour and hate your enemy.' But I tell you: Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. If you love those who love you, what reward will you get?... Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect.” - Matthew 5:43-46;48

When you have achieved this requirement, that’s when you know you have experienced the Spirit of God working through you and no longer your flesh. By your own ability you CAN NOT love your enemies. It is only by the supernatural power of God that this is possible.

So my prayer is that God will teach us to love unconditionally.

Always strive to be more like Jesus.

Be encouraged.

Thursday, October 22, 2009

"You knit me together in my mother's womb."


This amazing picture of an 8 week old fetus in his or her mother's womb is part of photo story feature from the UK Telegraph.

I was reminded of one of my favorite passages from Psalms 139:13-16.

For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, our eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.

Wednesday, October 21, 2009

Mary Mary, Quite Contrary

Sisters Erica and Tina Campbell, better known as Mary Mary, have long been accused of creating music that walks both sides of the line between contemporary Gospel and R&B.


My sister Joscelyne is an ardent Mary Mary fan, and has been since their first album "Thankful" came out nine years ago. It was her constant playing of that CD (by constant, I mean endless... I still have the words to their duet with Destiny's Child in my head nearly a decade later) which led to me becoming a fan.

So you can imagine my shock when Jos, halfway through a late breakfast at Denny's a couple of weeks ago, announced her deep displeasure with the Gospel duo's latest hit "God in Me" off their album "The Sound," which was released a year ago today.

"I don't like that song... nope. What message are they sending? How is that even really Christian? I mean, come on, people will listen and tie all the "bling" to God... and that's not right. Do you think it's okay???" She asked that last question rather pointedly. And surprisingly, I had to answer with, "I don't know." Jos, halfway through her omelet looked at me incredulously. Alisha, little-miss-music-critic, had not a single word of critique for this song.

While I have struggled to come up with a definitive opinion, others have taken to the internet to broadcast theirs. I found this video on YouTube:



So what exactly, is so scandalous about "God in Me" anyway? (By the way, you can check out the fashion show-themed video here, complete with a cameo from speech interrupter/ controversy courter/rapper Kanye West and his latest paramour.) The problem seems to be all the talk of material things:

"Everything you wear people say they got have it/From the sweat suit to the white tee to the Gucci/ You can probably say people wanna get like me... You see her style you think she nice
You look at her whip you say the whip tight/You look at her crib you thinks she's paid/You look at her life you think she's got it made."

But in all fairness, the sisters' give credit for all the worldly blessings to God:

"But what they don't know is when you go home/And get behind closed doors man you hit the floor/And what they can't see is your on your knees/So the next time you get it just tell em/It's the God in me...You think I'm so fresh you think I'm so clean/You think I'm so sweet It's the God in me
"

To Jos, though, the song is merely paying lip service to God. "The Bible talks about the hard times you'll go through as a Christian. It's not all good times. The song makes it seem like following Christ means you'll be blessed with all this stuff, and that's not necessarily true... it's not that it's wrong to be rich but... you know what it sounds like? Like the Prosperity Gospel!"

My little sis might have a point. According to Wikipedia, the prosperity gospel is "a religious belief centered around the notion that God provides material prosperity for those he favors. It implies both that people who are favored by God will be materially successful, and also that materially successful people are successful because God favored them." Basically, the song is saying incur God's "favor" and in no time at all, you can be "sweet", "fresh" and wearing Gucci, just like Mary Mary, too.

Or maybe not. When I played "God in Me" for K over the weekend, he had a totally other point of view. "I think the song is saying that people look at the outside and are so impressed by that, but if it weren't for God, who's in her heart, she wouldn't have success at all. It's about going deeper." So, to Jos, it's shallow. To K, there's a certain level of depth. So which is it? To me, it's both. Or maybe, neither. The thing about Mary Mary's music (or Kirk Franklin, or over on the rock side, POD or Flyleaf) is that depending on the listener, the song's meaning will vary. Ever since their debut album, the ladies have enjoyed success on the Gospel, Pop, and R&B charts. Their songs have been sung in churches and (admittedly questionably) played in clubs. Instead of lamenting over their worldliness, I have always praised Mary Mary for putting out music even the world has stopped and listened to. It's been my hope that people who wouldn't dream of listening to traditional Gospel (James, Shirley and Mahalia aren't for everyone) will hear it's young urban baby and will be drawn to learn more about the God we praise.

As we wrapped up our meal, Jos asked me if I think "God in Me" is truly a Gospel song. "Honestly? No. I'd put it in the same category I'd put India Arie's "God is Real" or Mary J. Blige's "6 AM". It's Inspirational." And considering it's managed to raise the ire of some while simultaneously being so fiercely defended by others, I think most can agree, it definitely inspires.

What are your thoughts on this song? How about Contemporary Christian music as a whole? Leave your comment!

Out Of The Mouths Of Babes...

... comes sincere supplication to God. I found this child's prayer so awesome, I had to share. Beautiful.


Saturday, October 17, 2009

To All Of You Who Feel Like Giving Up...

... watch this video clip, which will inspire you to succeed.

Friday, October 16, 2009

Of Men & Angels... and MRIs

Check out this Nightline report on a study of how speaking in tongues has an effect on the brain and can be seen on MRI scans. Quite interesting.


Old Time Music?

I know, more like old timers trying to sing young music. Hilarious nevertheless.


Tuesday, October 13, 2009

In the beginning, [Fill in the Blank] Created the Earth...



According to this Telegraph story:

"Professor Ellen van Wolde, a respected Old Testament scholar and author, claims the first sentence of Genesis "in the beginning God created the Heaven and the Earth" is not a true translation of the Hebrew.

She claims she has carried out fresh textual analysis that suggests the writers of the great book never intended to suggest that God created the world -- and in fact the Earth was already there when he created humans and animals."

I'm not sure who the professor is respected by, but she's not getting much from me. I always question any scholar who suddenly "discovers" the missing translation/interpretation needed to unlock Biblical passages negating the fundamental teachings of Christianity. Somehow, in all of these many millenia, no one but the good Prof has managed to translate the first verse of the Bible? Yeah, ok. But back to the story:

"...She said she eventually concluded the Hebrew verb "bara", which is used in the first sentence of the book of Genesis, does not mean "to create" but to "spatially separate".

The first sentence should now read "in the beginning God separated the Heaven and the Earth"...

She said: "It meant to say that God did create humans and animals, but not the Earth itself."

"It meant to say..."? Huh? So I guess van Wolde is just helping out that poor mumbling text which, I guess, cannot speak for itself by explaining to the world what it meant to say, if only it could talk. Sheesh.

"A spokesman for the Radboud University said: "The new interpretation is a complete shake up of the story of the Creation as we know it."

Excuse me for not even feeling an aftershock...

"Prof Van Wolde added: "The traditional view of God the Creator is untenable now."

... and no, I don't see how this "new interpretation" renders the traditional view untenable. While Van Wolde claims God did not create the earth, no one or thing is offered up as the Creator. If there's anything on shaky ground, it's this rehashed theory being presented as groundbreaking.

Sunday, October 11, 2009

His Eye Is On The Sparrow...


...and I know He watches me. Thank you, Lord. From "Sister Act 2: Back In The Habit", enjoy a young Lauryn Hill and Tanya Blount sing "His Eye is on the Sparrow."


Saturday, October 10, 2009

Well, At Least He Now Has One Accomplishment In The Bag...

...even if most would say he didn't actually do anything to earn that Nobel. Enjoy SNL's much discussed Obama skit from last Saturday.

Why I Won't Have Kids Anytime Soon


I went to my mom's house a couple of weeks ago and spent a little time with my nephews and niece. I quickly remembered why K and I are planning to wait a couple of years before having our own wild bunch.



If Obama Can Win A Nobel For His Potential...

Barack might have been surprised here while speaking to school children, but not as surprised as the WORLD when it was announced that he won the Nobel Peace Prize yesterday morning.


... then I'm sure my Pulitzer is about to be awarded. K was confused too, and added, "It's like Drake getting a Grammy now." If one thing is certain, The POTUS' win has united people from all across the political spectrum to ask, "Huh?", followed up by a "What the...?" Hey, even Obama himself was surprised.

I was left scratching my head with this choice. Sorry, but it reeks of, at best, a pathetic ploy of partisan politics, and at worst, over adulation of the very charismatic Prez, which cheapens the award to a popularity contest. Either way, it was wrong. If Gandhi somehow never won despite the many ways he ACTUALLY promoted peace, no one should ever win based based on potential or the highest of intentions.

Thursday, October 8, 2009

The Crazy Love of God


Yesterday I started reading "Crazy Love" by Francis Chan, and I'm quickly falling in love with this book! On Tuesday, I brought it oddly enough at a supermarket (it shared space in the red plastic basket with a birthday card, a box of Goya yellow rice, a can of pink beans, Italian sausages and a five mini-pumpkins). It has turned out to be the best purchase I've made in a long time (even though the beans and rice were quite deelish).

Being a cradle Christian, I've always had the Bible, church and ministries around me. Unfortunately, because of this early and constant immersion in churchiness, there have been a few stretches of time in my life where God seems to get old. Of course I still love Him, but like any relationship, there are hot times and cold ones, and unless I put in the extra effort, I'll end up lukewarm, which is a dangerous place to be. On a side note, if you're curious if you might be slipping into staid, check out these ten questions and you should get the answer.

I'm only on the first chapter, and already I'm feeling my spiritual temperature rise. I wanted to share one of the videos readers are supposed to watch as they go through the book (it's interactive- you read passages and then view videos on the books official website). I got the video below from YouTube though, so it has a few different videos on various topics by Francis Chan. They're all good, but I want you to pay close attention to the first one "Stop And Think."


Under Construction!


So the Far Above Rubies site is undergoing some major changes, most of which you can see now (although there are more changes ahead). I decided to nix the red and cream hued flower motif (which screamed "I write poetry! Read my haiku!") for a more streamlined, professional website-look (which admittedly, with the current shade of blue in the headers does look like Facebook). I could not have managed the switch without the help of my wonderful (and incredibly sexy) husband, K, who spent a couple of hours last night playing with the CSS code (whatever that is) to get the links to actually work. My Knight is a IT King, and if you're reading this (I know you are), thank you so much. You don't just believe in my writing, you help me with it, and I appreciate that. You're awesome, babe.

Ok, for the rest of my readers, I'll stop with the smoopiness, and ask you to bare with the construction, which at least in cyberworld, does not result in detours, closures or traffic jams. Maybe just a few broken links.

Wednesday, October 7, 2009

Benny Hinn: "I'm Not A Healer"

Well, duh. At least he kind of admitted as much in the interview below:




Benny is also not a prophet or an honest writer. But he definitely is a founding member of the Pulpit Pimps.

Tuesday, October 6, 2009

Say It Ain't So!


I was just checking my Blogger updates when I read this link to the latest entry on Aliya King's Blog: "Dear Readers, So, I’m done here. Closing up shop." Ahh! She continued: "The other day, I opened my laptop and dreaded typing in my wordpress account information. That’s not a good sign. A few folks warned me in the beginning: go slow or you’ll burn out. But I only have two speeds: fast and faster... The schedule I set up for blogging made me loathe the whole thing... I became obsessed with my stats. Thousands of people read the post Is Toure Right? Thousands! Wow! From that moment on, it was all downhill. I started obsessively checking my stats. Mourning posts with low stats and celebrating those that did well."

I can relate to Aliyah's lament about those darn stats. I got a little Stat Counter on my page (on the right side underneath my reader poll which I haven't updated in months which the question is about Thriller... it's there, you can check it out now if you like), and I have to restrain myself from constantly checking the numbers throughout the day. And to be honest, I still fail miserably, going back to peek at odd times.

But I'm disappointed. First I have to deal with all the non-stop closures of newspapers and magazines (I'm not surprised about Conde Nast's big announcement about discontinuing 4 of their famous mags), and with Aliyah's swan song in the blogosphere, that makes two vacant spots in my circle of fav online spots. The first, The Dawn Patrol, by Dawn Eden, ended in July. Like Aliyah, who's leaving after finishing up her first book, Dawn was on to big things like speaking tours related to her first foray into the world of books. So, I am happy that they've moved on to fulfilling professional and personal dreams.

Dawn titled her last entry "Au revoir, mes amis."Here's hoping I won't have to say goodbye to too many more of my internet friends anytime soon.

Monday, October 5, 2009

Losing Our Religion


So it's common knowledge that more and more Americans consider themselves to belong to the Most Holy Church of None, as in when asked which religious group they belonged to, a surprisingly large amount chose "none." I know thatI have discussed this topic, heck, probably wrote about it on here, too, but I didn't feel like going through 6 months of blogs to link it up.

Anyway, I was still surprised to see this USA Today interactive chart which demonstrates just how nonreligious this country has become.

Amy Whine Ouch

I have no clue why former (?) druggie/could-have-been-a-star-at Motown-in-the-60's singer Amy Winehouse decided to try her voice at rap in the video below, but she really should not have. But kudos that Amy is de-beehived and looks to be healthier. Here's hoping the former queen of UK's blue-eyed latter day soul movement (former cause let's face it, Adele has slid into that top spot quite nicely, although this American would still say Amy is beating out Duffy) can stay clean and produce another hot album soon. Until then, I've got "Back to Black" in my MP3 player.

Rainbow Blight: Colorful Statement Jewlery Sends The Wrong Message



Across the pond in England, kids have taken to wearing brightly colored bracelets, not for fashion, but to declare just how far they're willing to go sexually- from a hug to... all the way. And everything in between. Each color represents a different sexual act. According to this Times of India story, "Available for just £1 on any High Street, the shag bands have become the latest craze among students, and horrified parents across the country... Kids chase each other around schools, and, if they break the band off the wearer’s wrist, the wearer has to offer the physical act that corresponds to the colour of the band.

“A yellow band is the best because all it means is you have to hug a boy. An orange means a love bite and purple is a full-on snog,” the Sun quoted a 12-year-old girl as saying. “If a boy breaks a pink band, a girl has to flash her boobs, a red band means you have to give him a lap dance and a blue is some sort of oral sex. The black means you have to go all the way with a boy,” she said.

“A gold band is the most important and means you have to do all of the above. They are pretty rare, so if you find a gold band in a shop, you have to get your mum to buy it. I don’t think parents have any idea what the bracelets mean because all the kids at my school wear them and don’t get told off,” she added.
And if this is not enough, those who do not wear a bracelet are looked down by their peers, while they get respect for wearing the more daring black and gold ones."

Pretty scary stuff, folks... Wonder how long before this icky trend travels from High Street to Main Street, USA? I'm betting it probably already has.

Saturday, October 3, 2009

Conan vs. Cory- Round II

The battle royale continues!






Friday, October 2, 2009

Somehow, I Don't Think This Is What Paul Had In Mind About A "Holy Kiss"


Forget studying the Bible for hours, learning apologetics, handing out tracts or spending time in prayer... no, if you REALLY want to reach wayward sinners, you simply need to date them. At least according to Tamara, who runs Date To Save.com, dedicated to spreading the good word that hot chicks can help fill empty pews by simply being... hot.

Tamara (over) shares, "...
I'm a Christian woman who loves Jesus Christ and cares for all humans, even the wicked. What you probably don't know is that I'm hot... I want to use my beauty for GOD, and want to encourage Christian women (my sisters in Christ) to do the same, according to the Great Commission. So, I created this web page for information regarding the calling of Missionary Dating. First of all, it helps that you're good looking. Romans 12:1 says "to offer your bodies as living sacrifices." Since our bodies are the temple of the Holy Spirit (1 Cor. 6:19), it makes sense that we should use our beautiful bodies to glorify HIS name, the Holy Spirit will work the strongest since He's in our body, right? That's the best position to be in!"

Ok, wow. I don't know if she's serious, since the site also has a link to an e-store to buy products such as a "Flirt to Convert" fitted tee, but I wouldn't be surprised. A little repulsed, but not surprised. Although I consider myself a hot girl, and now a hot wife, I'm glad I stuck to the more traditional forms of witnessing. After all, the only laying on of hands I did as a single girl in the service of Christ was in prayer.

Thursday, October 1, 2009

Conan vs. Cory: Brick City Blathering

Fresh off the heels of Sundance's airing of "Brick City", a documentary about New Jersey's most infamous city, Newark, last week, Conan O'Brien decided to take a swipe at the beleagured metropolis on the "Tonight Show". Mayor Cory Booker posted this YouTube video as a response:



I'm a Jersey girl, born and raised, all 27 years of my life spent residing in suburbs just south of Newark. My Daddy worked there for decades, and I sneaked off to Broad Street as a college freshman with my friend Kandi to buy sneakers for far lower prices than at the many malls that are plopped in every other town in the Garden State. why, you might wonder, would I sneak there as an adult? Because of stories like this. Or this. Sigh... the truth is, Newark is a gritty place. I would never want to live there. I only go there when I absolutely have to, like when my uncle had open heart surgery and I visited him in the hospital. Or K and I have to eat jerk chicken. But that's about it.

That being said, comedians, please pick on other cities for a change. Lay off Newark. It's struggling to come up and doesn't need to be continually kicked down by people who reside in California somewhere. And while you're at it, leave New Jersey out of your routines, too! Sure we have rather stinky exits off the Turnpike, but we have nice ones, too, and it's not like Los Angeles smells like a bed of roses. Yes, we do have a prepondance of McMansions, but so do most states- ever visit southern Florida? And yeah, we know you have to keep your flip-flops on while walking our beaches because of the liter, but have you ever been to Coney Island??? Leave Dirty Jersey alone! It's not prefect, but it's our home. At least, until we flee.
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