Thursday, November 18, 2010

Marriage? It's Gone The Way Of The VCR

Is this happy family obsolete?

Not surprisingly, but definitely disturbing, four in ten Americans say marriage, that timeless institution is now obsolete. From MSNBC:

"As families gather for Thanksgiving this year, nearly one in three American children is living with a parent who is divorced, separated or never-married. More people are accepting the view that wedding bells aren't needed to have a family.

A study by the Pew Research Center highlights rapidly changing notions of the American family. And the Census Bureau, too, is planning to incorporate broader definitions of family when measuring poverty, a shift caused partly by recent jumps in unmarried couples living together.

About 29 percent of children under 18 now live with a parent or parents who are unwed or no longer married, a fivefold increase from 1960, according to the Pew report being released Thursday. About 15 percent have parents who are divorced or separated and 14 percent have parents who were never married.Within those two groups, a sizable chunk — 6 percent — have parents who are live-in couples who opted to raise kids together without getting married.

According to the Pew survey, 39 percent of Americans say marriage is becoming obsolete. And that sentiment follows U.S. census data released in September that showed marriages hit an all-time low of 52 percent for adults 18 and over.

In 1978, just 28 percent believed marriage was becoming obsolete.

When asked what constitutes a family, the vast majority of Americans agree that a married couple, with or without children, fits that description. But four of five surveyed pointed also to an unmarried, opposite-sex couple with children or a single parent. Three out of five people said a same-sex couple with children is a family.

"Marriage is still very important in this country, but it doesn't dominate family life like it used to," said Andrew Cherlin, a professor of sociology and public policy at Johns Hopkins University. "Now there are several ways to have a successful family life, and more people accept them."...

"The changing views of family are being driven largely by young adults 18-29, who are more likely than older generations to have an unmarried or divorced parent or have friends who do. Young adults also tend to have more liberal attitudes when it comes to spousal roles and living together before marriage, the survey found."

To read the entire story, click here. Sigh.


Anonymous said...

It is sad to see what is happening to us. And I don't really agree with those that say "It's this generation" that is not all true. I come from a broken home, my parents divorced after 25 years of marriage and after migrating to this country! that's about 30 years ago. I think that we have lost the concept of what marriage truly is and what it can accomplish. Marriage to me it's the birth of two people becoming one. Growing together and learning from each other. Together as one, in agreement a couple can accomplish great things.
But what is even sadder than this article is what I heard on the news a couple of days ago. They were saying that children are not good for a marriage, that it stresses the couple and gives them more troubles added to whatever they already have, and yet we are addicted to having children. I don't know how they came about their findings, but I tell you this much; they sure didn't ask me!
As Christians, we need to fight back for our marriages and take a stand, but always keeping in mind that the battle is not against the flesh, but against principalities and powers of the air!
Well, that's just my opinion.

Alisha De Freitas said...

Dear Anon,

Your comment was so awesome! Can you please let your identity be known, lol?

So children mess up a marriage, huh? I figured it would come to this point. "Children are nuisances that cause you to be broke, stressed and miserable!" I guess it's a good thing the proponents of that belief had parents who didn't follow that!

April Joy said...

Dear Anonymous:
I absolutely love what you wrote...and you're statement "I think that we have lost the concept of what marriage truly is and WHAT IT CAN ACCOMPLISH" is so foundationally true to the problem in this world.
LoL oh this brings up so many things to talk about haha.

*Great post Alisha*

Don said...

Interesting comments. If I had to offer an opinion I'd say that the way the world is built, nowadays, opposed to yesteryear, sort of creates and nurtures an atmosphere that hardly speaks of happily ever after.

Of course it depends more on the parties involved (and there background, I suppose), but it certainly appears that the adage nothing lasts forever appears more revelant than ever.

As you once stated, Alisha, the current generation is spoiled rotten. I believe the majority of the effort goes towards the weeding moreso the marriage.

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