Thursday, May 26, 2011

Two Become One: Julienne & Risheem

Note: This is part of a series on Love, Sex, & Relationships from a Christian Perspective. It was inspired by "No Ring, No Ting".

It's been awhile, but I'm another couple decided to open up about their marriage in a society that seems to place little value in the institution. This Q&A is very special since it's coming from the perspective of both the wife and husband, whereas the past features were from the ladies' POV. 

FAR: How important do you feel sex is in marriage?

J&R:  We believe that sex is extremely important in a marriage. It is in that time of intimacy that a couple draws closer to one another.

FAR: Do you feel there are certain sexual acts that even married folks should not do? Why or why not?

J&R: The Bible says that the bed is undefiled, we believe as long as both parties agree to the act, and it not compromise their marriage it can be permissible.

FAR: Do you believe there is a difference between abstinence and chastity?

J&R: We will say the both are one in the same, because it is the act of abstaining.

FAR: Can and should chastity be practiced in marriage?

J&R: We believe that chastity should not be practiced in a marriage.

FAR: How do you keep the romance burning in marriage, especially with kids?

J&R: It is important that any married couple who has kids find time to getaway alone with each other at least twice a year even if it is an overnight getaway.

FAR: Did you and your husband wait until the honeymoon to have sex? Yes or no, are there any regrets?

J&R: Yes we waited until the honeymoon to have sex and we have no regrets at all.

FAR: What do you think the role of the husband is in the Christian marriage? What about the role of the wife?

J&R: The role of a husband in a Christian marriage is to first love the Lord with all his heart, next to be a provider for his family, and lastly love his wife as Christ loves the church.

The role of wife in a Christian marriage is to love and submit to her husband, and to be a woman of great virtue.

FAR: Do you think it’s okay for one partner in the marriage to withhold sex from the other for any reason? What about affection?

J&R: If both parties decide to abstain from sex for the sake of fasting it is okay, but for one to withhold the answer will be "No". Our bodies belong to one another. Affection should never be withheld.

FAR: What role does communication play in your relationship?

J&R: Communication plays a very important role, without communication the marriage is dead and without hope.

FAR: How would you advise Christian women who are not interested in being intimate with their husbands?

J&R: If a woman refuses to be intimate with her husband, it opens the door for the enemy to cloud the mind of a man. What you are not willing to do for your husband, there is a woman out there who will.

FAR: Who proposed? How did the proposal go?

J&R: I proposed to my wife, and it was for sickness and health, as she laid in the bed very ill, I asked her to be my wife. It went well, because the next day she was feeling better and reading wedding magazines.

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Keiron said...

Nice interview. I just have a few questions: How many kids do you have and how long have you been married?

Jewels said...

We have 3 children and June 6th will mark our 13th Anniversary.

Joseph Flemming said...

@Alisha, Great feature! I hope you will do more interviews in the future! @ Julienne & Risheem, God bless you two, thanks for sharing the experiences and lessons you have learned through the years. =)

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